The History of International Women's Day

The History of International Women's Day

by Aditi Thirani

1909 saw the start of the women's movement where the IWD (International Women's Day) was established. Women went through a lot of bias when it came to wages in industries and they were isolated in all possible ways. They were made to work in the worst of conditions and the pay was depressing. This was the time when trade unions were getting formed and the flame of revolution was lit. And this was the time when un-unionised women got the chance they longed.

Women faced a lot of issues right from voting rights to the rights even in the family. Most of the places came under these issues and then women in Australia started with a campaign for the voting rights of women. Different perspectives clashed with each other as to how these issues are supposed to be handled.

Germany and Russia fought for it as being a necessity in the society. Some fought for the property rights and some managed to get the messages and concerns across. This was a time when the mass movement of women fought against the exploitation working women faced at workplace. Also the violence women faced at home was and is still a big issue for which many prominent people joined hands.

The basic rights like political and economics rights had to be conserved for women. And later in 1910 the social workers and delegates decided in a meeting that Women's day should become an international event. The idea of women all over the world getting politically organised was created quite a stir everywhere. The German Socialist Party had a major influence over the international women's movement and the party had many women rights advocates in place.

Hands in hands with US, German leader Clara Zetkin framed a proposal which said that women throughout the world must observe this day to press on their demands. International women's day was first time honoured on the 19th of March. Over 100 women from around 17 countries had agreed to the proposal. Three of these women were elected as the first women to Finnish Parliament.

Also some other issues were addressed like the maternity benefits. Thus women became more strong and vocal in addressing their opinions. More attention was paid to addressing the common issues faced by women. And after the World War 1, it had been acknowledged globally. 1975 was designated as the International women's Year by United Nation. Women across the world hold this day with great regards and a series of events with respect to it. Film screenings, dramas and programs supporting the cause were seen.

IWD is now an official holiday in Armenia, Russia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Bulgaria, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Macedonia, Moldova, Mongolia, Tajikistan, Ukraine, Uzbekistan and Vietnam. This day sees men honouring their wives, daughters and mothers with gifts and flowers. In some countries IWD has the equivalent status of Mother's Day where children give small presents to their mothers and grandmothers.

The changed have been significant since then. Women's day movement has reached to a credible stage today. Today we can proudly say that what the founders of IWD (International women's Day) had in view has been successful.

What is Women's Day?

What is Women's Day?

by Aditi Thirani

Women as an issue has been long debated. Whether it is regarding their rights or responsibilities, it has varied all the time. So what is women's day? What does it represent? Women ofcourse, but how much of it actually helps women as a subject is a big question. Everyone just wants to judge them and decide what they should do and how they should behave. What role does the Women's day have?

Like today if we see so many products in the market are there especially for women. Women have a full-fledged market catering to their needs. But in this transaction, lot of stereotypes are produced. Having a women's day in itself says that women have always had to fight for their rights. They had to keep telling the world that they are independent and are capable of taking their own decisions. Women's Day is like a day off to all the sufferings and pains that a woman goes through. It's a day when she can voice her mind free of any concerns. But this she can do on other day as well so what's so special about women's day?

Women's day is a mark to the struggle that women have always had to get their rights and issues addressed. It is to signify the inequality that women have always faced everywhere, be it home, workplace or anywhere for that matter. She has been silently taking all of that but now she can speak out her mind. And this day is a celebration of that fact. The fact that her views reach to the society and her concerns are taken care of is over whelming. Women's day is a day of unity when all women come together and hold hands against any problem that they face. It a war against all those who discriminate in some or the other way. It is also the justice that a woman gets that she deserves.

Obviously it's not done here. Things still have to improve for a better tomorrow and now is time when that is thinkable. And that in itself is an achievement. Women's day is a time to pledge to solve all the problems and put an end to the struggle and let things be the way they should be. Pledging that the partiality that happened will never make an appearance again. Make a promise to all the women that they will be capable enough to protect themselves from all the harassment and nuisance they face.

Women's Day is a reminder for everyone who forgets about the rights women has and also for them who need to know what are the rights. It is a day for creating awareness in women all over the world so that they know when they are being exploited. It is also a day which represents the powerful women all over and what feats they have achieved and a day which also gives them the due credit that they deserve.

Things will change soon and for good. As the awareness rate increases better things will happen. Women's day is just not a day for women, it a day about women in relation with the whole world.

Being a woman is the best!

Being a woman is the best!

Being a woman is not one-dimensional. There's many facets to that, of course. Suchitra Date, a dancer, physiologist and student counsellor tells us more

by Aditi Thirani

There are so many hidden advantages to being a woman feels Suchitra Date. A trained Bharatnatyam Dancer, a physiologist and a counsellor and a student from TISS in Bombay, she would know. So many things, one person... it's talent and hard work rolled into one.

"I feel being a woman is the best thing. I love being one and I don't know what I would do if I were to be a man. I am happy that my husband is not dependant on my income! It gives me a lot of freedom. Many of us are in certain professions because of restrictions of taking care of the family financially. But as a woman, I am free to be extremely creative," says Date.

Adding to the things a woman can do, she says, "A woman can have a child whenever she wants to; a man can't do the same. There is so much flexibility in her life. She can be emotional whenever she wants to. While a man's life according to me becomes so monotonous. But she is expected to be a super-human being. She is measured the way her children perform. Yet she has her freedom of expression. How much I love being a woman. I really don't know what I would do if I was a man," says Suchitra.

That is another side to our normal lives. We keep cribbing about things... but there could be so many ways to look at things so positively. We get the pleasure of creating human beings and it's such a great feeling. Women get all the lovely material like accessories. We can be macho sometimes and feminine at times. We have lot of colours to give to our personality. So much of variety and additionally we have so many excuses for taking breaks.

"But in the process what happens is people tend to underestimate women. They are seen with sympathy which is not appreciated. Its time now that we go hand in hand. And once that happens we'll see life is so beautiful that way. No one is weak... each person is equally important and strong. It's time men learn to be aware that women are decision makers and natural balancers. They must consider their opinion seriously. Woman must teach their boys to respect and understand other woman. That way they'll be really good partners. For a couple to succeed in life, support from both sides is essential," she adds.

But multi-tasking is what every woman has to be perfect at. That's actually a quality most woman possess, be it naturally or born out of necessity. Suchitra says it was really tough being a woman with multiple careers. "People expect too much from my children and they have to suffer the pressure of performing always. I feel so bad for high-achiever parents. Their children have to always go through this. People keep judging you and you are not allowed to lead a normal life. I have tried my best to balance things and have been doing it," adds Suchitra.

After so many things a woman also gets so many chances to pursue their hobbies. She can choose within a range of so many activities. Suchitra Date loves music and loves attending Musical programs and plays as well. She also does social work and is a founder member of Swadhar, an organisation for destitute woman and children. She has been a state level badminton player as well.

"I am waiting for the day when I open the newspaper and there won't be a single report of rape, molestation, dowry or any crime against women. That's the day we will know that women have started taking power. It's time women realise that they are well equipped and they must take care of things beyond just their homes. They can do much more," concludes Suchitra.

A living Inspiration

A living Inspiration

Who says that young shall inherit the world? Meet this grand old lady who has made India her home and now fights for the rights of her adopted sisters.

by Aditi Thirani

"For me, to be a woman means living with a feeling of plenitude, never that of inferiority," says Nishtha Pierre Marie. Born in France, she is a French woman living in India for almost four decades. Her fluency in Marathi wouldn't let you think she isn't Indian by birth!

'Nishthatai', as she is known, has been doing a lot of social work in and around Pune. "I was the eldest and my grandfather treated me as the head of the family. It helped me a lot to affirm my personality as a woman," she says when asked about her being such a strong woman. She has written three French books and she also taught French in the Pune University for a brief period.

She lives in Athashri, a residence on Sus Road only for the aged. Although she lives alone, she is by no means lonely. Even at an advanced age, she is lively as ever and also looks forward to entertaining her steady stream of visitors. Equipped with a library full of books, Nishthatai loves reading. But unlike most people of her age group, she is tech savvy and enjoys her time browsing the Internet. A true Indian at heart, she keeps herself updated with news and specifically loves everything about India.

Remaining active in ones old age is critical and Nishthatai has ensured that she does this. She does a lot of work with villages and has been striving for a change. "I would really like a change in many people� Even my brothers are anti-feminist and troubled me! In fact, nobody supported me when I decided I wanted to come to India. They said I had lost my mind. But I had made my decision," says Nishtha.

With a slight French accent, she narrates her experiences in India as a foreign woman. "My experience as a woman in India has shown me that men are oppressing the women. A woman will never be the owner of anything, and the men will never let her be one either. And when I became the owner of a place, a group has done everything to take it from me, but I stuck to my guns. For twenty years, I had to face so many people wanting to take everything away from me," she adds.

According to her, most of the changes that she has seen have been brought about by women. "A lot of change has taken place, but made by the women themselves, the men are not changing so much," she insists.

Today, we really need a drastic change in the situation of women. "The time has come to change the situation but it is a change which has to come from within society to realise the complementarities between man and woman. They have to be together to make the change happen," says Nishthatai.

On a parting note, she advises how women should think about themselves. "The man is unconscious of the abnormality of his attitude and it is very difficult for the woman to know what to do. This is related to a true incident where the man just doesn't realise what he is doing because the woman doesn't react like he is doing something wrong. This has to change," she says.

Her age notwithstanding, Nishthatai is all set to take on the world and change the way the world looks at women. She has been, is, and will be a great source of inspiration for all women around her.

Power! In the real sense

Power! In the real sense

To be a woman means to 'have power in the real sense' says Sindhu Ramachandran about being a woman.

by Aditi Thirani

"A power which can make or break other creations, not like men who have to put on acts to display their power. In fact even the silence of a woman has power. Being a woman means being strong � facing life's little ups and downs and still being able to love and be loved," adds Sindhu.

An E&TC Graduate from Wadias, Pune. But she followed her passion in life and went ahead to become a Certified Fitness professional. She has been certified from the Symbiosis Institute of Health Sciences. She was also associated with SIHS as a faculty-cum-academic coordinator. Apart from that she is into fitness management, group fitness, and soft-skills training.

"People, music and fitness are my three passions � and I guess this is the only profession which combines all three. Thankfully, the experience so far has been a good one," says Sindhu. In fact, group fitness being my favourite aspect of fitness, the feeling of control and achievement that you get when you see the entire group working together and enjoying themselves with smiling faces is priceless. I have learnt a lot � like I always say � nothing (not even an MBA) can teach you lessons like life can. And interacting with so many people on a daily basis, I have come to realize that the experiences that one has in their lives defines their personality - physically, socially and emotionally," says Sindhu

What changes would she like to see in the attitude of people towards women? "I would like people to see women as more than just a sex object. More than being fat or thin, fair or dark, or dumb, for that matter, especially parents who are not practicing what they preach. Like the girl has to look good and serve her in-laws till eternity. These things must change. And I would like for all men to look at a girl in her eyes when they are talking, and not elsewhere. They have to be aware that the person with them is an equal human being and not a servant. Grow up, men," she advises!

Being an outsider to her field then, she faced many problems. But as they say problems always are to make you strong and we can see the example right in front of us. "Being from an unfamiliar background and with biological constraints, it was difficult initially for the people to take me seriously - especially parents. But then, the stubborn person that I am, I did my own thing- I always believed, that my work ethics would compensate for all drawbacks - and it did pay off well. Every individual is a challenge - and a different one each time," she adds.

"One positive thing I have noticed is that with the corporate world expanding so much, the men have learnt to behave well with a lady - atleast superficially. People are accepting women equally - but it still has a long way to go. All the efforts of the Govt. of India to bring up a girl child in a better way, have been very effective - but again still a long way to go," says Sindhu. There is no two way to that. We do have a long way ahead.

"I expect a fair treatment from everyone including the family. I do expect understanding, cooperation and appreciation of the role that a woman has to play in life, of a wife, mother, sister, friend and an efficient worker. Women should think that they can actually achieve whatever they set out to do. If you have the will to do succeed success will definitely come. But please avoid hypocrisy when you say that there should be equality of sexes be ready to face the bad part as well. U can't expect people to make concessions for you, just because you are a lady - and then preach equal opportunities for all," concludes Sindhu.

Well said, lady!

Ms Fixit

Ms Fixit!

"Being a female and multi-talented goes hand in hand" as we find out in a chat with a foreign student in India.

By Aditi Thirani

She is currently in her Third Year Law at ILS Law College, but Chiteisri Devi does not wish to be a lawyer! The study of Law is a stepping stone for her to be involved in Activism in Environmental issues and Women's Rights. "I chose to study in Pune as I believed it is a safe place to be away from home and yet it teaches me to be more independent," says Chiteisri. Her family of her mother and grandmother are her inspiration and support as aside from being outstanding in their professional lives. "They have mastered home management and culinary skills whereas me, call me 'The Undomesticated Goddess" from Sophie Kinsella's novel! I have studied Ornithology, Geopolitics and International Relations, Intellectual Property Rights and the European Union Law by way of Diplomas, and I plan to do an intensive Environmental Resource Management course next. I also participate in Debates, Elocutions and Model United Nations activities," beams Chiteisri.

In addition to all the above things, she recently participated in the 54th Harvard National Model United Nations Conference at Boston as the Delegate of Chad in the African Union and won the award for "the Outstanding Delegate" in her Committee. "I think it was the topics (Women's Education and Climate Change) that got me so motivated to do well as they touched my most passionate issues," says a humble Chiteisri.

"Being a woman has its fair share of triumphs and despair juxtaposed. However she personally feels that there are several advantages of being a woman in today's competitive, alienated world. Rather than using brute strength and intimidation when we reach that breakdown point, the challenge lies in the fact that we can use a subtle blend of intellect, charm, appeal and persuasion to get exactly what we want," says Chiteisri. Truer words were ne'er said!

She - as do her counterparts - really craves for change in the situation of women. "A change that I'd like to see and genuinely feel necessary is doing away with gender-based stereotypes. In our evolving society, stereotyping women impedes the healthy change, as a result of which women are unable to explore the freedom or space to attain her full potential. Matrimonial ads are the best example to such stereotypes. One sees words like "homely, cultured, convent-educated, fair" everyday - encoded expectations of the ideal women that clearly show that we have an archaic mindset. That MUST change," emphasises Chiteisri.

She has changed all of nine schools, spent four years in a girls boarding schools, travelled most of India and also to about 20 other countries. "My family has always believed that travel is a good teacher and with philosophy we make it a point to see new places each year even if that requires some compromise," she says. She is only 20, but has had enough exposure to have a firm opinion of her future and the world around her. "In all these years, I have observed women and tried to find out who is the 'perfect woman' only to realize, what one calls 'perfection' can never be attained unless and until she truly believes in herself. A woman cannot afford to be judgmental as we always are the victims of gossip and jealousy ourselves. Therefore, openness is a quality we must never lose as we can adapt to change, understand pain and be more sensitive than our male counterparts," says Chiteisri.

Expectations are something that she doesn't really have as with it she always seems to be too disappointed. It has taken few bad experiences to have had taught her this valuable lesson and she thinks it has paid off. Chiteisri says, "I know that in time, I shall have to face all those standard questions on marriage, careers, men and issues on gender but I shall take them one day at a time. My immediate goal is to complete my studies here and later abroad from a standard institute to have better career options, whatever it may be. The rest is about keeping an open mind and a space to keep learning!"

And what does she feel about the future of women in the society? "I think it was Dr. Faust who once said 'It is the eternal Feminine that draws us upwards'. Study after study has shown that a country is considered to be truly developed when women come to the forefront - be it in Education, Rights, Leaders, and Health and Environmental awareness. The future should be such that women play a lead role in the growth and development of our country. And, this will be possible when the right opportunities are available, giving women a chance in every field, setting aside the heavy patriarchal mindset and of course, doing away with stereotypes."

This young lady simply has too many and too varied aspirations. "I wish to be completely independent financially and find some work where I could combine my hobbies and commitments such that my work is not a burden. I would like a lead in something related to Environment Protection or Women's Rights. I often dream of having some land of my own, isolated from this metro like life, closer to the ocean where I feel like I am a part of Nature, environmentally responsible and self-sustaining. Quirky wishes would be Taller, adventure sports, being fluent in at least seven languages and a star figure skater." The list doesn't end here.

She would like to be remembered as a role model for young women. As a child when she was asked, what do you want to become when you grow up? She listed answers like an RJ, a writer, a marine biologist, a supermodel, a bartender, a spy. "I would love to be involved in drama after I finish my Law course, just to be all those roles!" concludes Chiteisri. Here's a role model for many to emulate.

The Big Dreamer

The big dreamer

Ashwini Choudhary is the pride of her family. She is the only girl in her house who sells newspapers as a result of which, she does attract a lot of attention.

By Aditi Thirani

Delivering newspapers is part of her family tradition and a profession that has been in the family since 1977. Ashwini's achievements and decision to live an unusual life was recently felicitated on International Women's day. "I have always felt proud to be a woman. It gives me a great feeling and the best part is that I never felt I was being treated unequally. I work being a woman so I don't feel that I should've been a man," says Ashwini.

Ashwini is currently studying in Class VIII. She has been delivering newspapers since she was in Class III. "I was just eight back then... my uncle got me interested in doing this. Even today, I want to give him the credit for making me special," says Ashwini who wants to become a policewoman when she grows up. "I always had the dream of becoming a policewoman. Besides, I would also love to do social work and help people like me who didn't get the resources and opportunities. I feel serving people is my duty and my right as well."

But it obviously hasn't been a cakewalk. What sort of problems did she have to face? "I always thought people would laugh at me and mock me. And what will I do if that happens? I always kept thinking about that but it no longer bothers me. I also didn't know much about money management or 'accounts' when I started off. That was the biggest hurdle. Another thing was that I didn't know anyone and I used to feel really bad about that. But with time, I've got the hang of it and now I feel very comfortable doing this job."

Ashwini feels people should start respecting women rather than underestimating them. "I think before people judge a woman, they should think about the fact that she is someone's mother, sister and daughter and they too have these at their own home. There was a time when a boy spoke to me in foul language but my uncle took his case! The point that I am trying to make is that men always think of women as weak. They have to stop suppressing us," says Ashwini.

This girl isn't all about showing her bravado. She is intelligent and this is evident when her entire family speaks highly of her. She has big dreams and is determined to go for after them. "I want to be independent; that's the basic thing to aspire for. There are many more things that I want to work hard and show that I can achieve a lot more than people can imagine. Thankfully, my family is really supportive and that's helped me a lot. I want to make it big, study a lot and make my parents proud," adds Ashwini, her eyes shining with the light of her dreams and a ray of hope that they will come true.

"But I feel the situation of women should improve. They are questioned a lot about every tiny thing they do. I think that must take change. Women should be encouraged to work and be independent, which sadly doesn't happen too much," insists Ashwini.

Big dreams in these small eyes are a hope that will fill the heart of every Indian with hope.

Life is the greatest teacher

Life is the greatest teacher

Fighting adversity and making it on her own is the hallmark of a woman. Every woman has the capacity, talent and drive to achieve this.

By Aditi Thirani

A commerce graduate, a tour-organiser and a lot more, Pratibha is a brave lady. Yes, she enjoys life and loves to cook, but she wouldn't like to stick to just that. "I like doing a variety of things and I don't like biased people! I feel they miss a lot in life and can never get the most out of life," says Pratibha.

She has been taking care of her family single-handedly since her husband's demise. She started working in a photo studio as an account manager and later started her own business. She has a fifteen-year-old daughter and a 20-year-old son and is enjoying good success in her business. "After my husband's death, the education of my children was my first priority. I always was into taking care of my business and children," says Pratibha.

Prior to the changes in her circumstances, she worked in a private firm and her husband took care of the business, but two years ago, she was thrown into the deep end of things. "I had two things to worry about: the financial situation had to be taken care of and I couldn't close down the business because the workers would lose their jobs and their livelihood. I had to continue the business," adds Pratibha.

She did face problems in this business due to the fact that she is a woman. "In my area of work, which is dominated by men, I have experienced difficulties in having people take me seriously. My workers didn't take me seriously earlier. They didn't follow my instructions and thought that I wasn't qualified enough to be working there. So many times the drivers, office boys and other staff tried to cheat me for money at minor things like diesel, break-down and so on," explains Pratibha.

Women are an important and inseparable part of the society feels Pratibha. "I strongly feel women need to have knowledge of multiple fields so that they can explore their potential. Women do have enormous talent and can fit in various traditional roles like being a mother and a home-maker. But these are not the only things that they can do. They are good at business, handling work responsibilities and making it in the corporate world. Nothing should be forced on a woman because that will only deny her the opportunity of exploring her real talent. I am personally very happy and content being a woman," says Pratibha.

She feels that the situation of women in our country has taken a lot of time to change and will take even more time to become what is desirable. "Indian society has been male dominated and there's no denying that. There will be problems that women will always face. More than thinking that women are weak, people assume they are not smart enough. And of course there is an ego thing where male workers don't like following orders and instructions by a woman boss! Even if a woman possesses the necessary skills and knowledge, society doesn't easily accept her as a decision maker or a leader. This is something which does need a drastic change," says an agitated Pratibha.

Women are not weak; they just don't realise what they are meant for and what their worth is feels Pratibha. "If women have the courage to face adverse situations, they would be capable of being up for any challenge thrown at them. As a woman, I feel all women should know their skills and use them to the fullest to improve the social and economic standing," concludes Pratibha.

Dancing her way through life

Dancing her way through life

Women need to stand up for themselves and be counted by not just though, but also action says renowned dancer Shefali Lahoti.

By Aditi Thirani

A classical dancer of renown, Shefali Lahoti is not a new name. She has won innumerable awards and trophies for the immense talent that she possesses. No matter how much one speaks her achievements, it would never quite be enough.

Dance, for Shefali, has been her first love and apart from being an expert herself, she has also choreographed for various programs and shows. She has also featured in television channels including Doordarshan, Zee Music and Sony India to name a few. She has also been conducting a lot of workshops, classes and lectures for students interested in pursuing dance. As a woman, she has been up to all the challenges that have come her way.

"Being a woman is the best gift that one can ask for," says Shefali. "No living being in world can experience the pleasure, joys and agony of being a woman. It's about being sensitive to the world in her own way and making a difference in the all the roles that life gives us," she adds. "A woman nurtures as a mother, her warmth is felt as a friend, she is adored as a daughter, cares as a sister and loves as a wife. Being a woman is being the cause of all these emotions that one can experience through her in life," says Shefali.

Shefali feels that in order to make it a fair world, women need to be respected for their individuality. "She should be given the right to create her own identity the way she wants to. And I feel she can do this if she knows how to prove herself by knowing her rights and responsibilities. People look at you the way you want them to see you," says Shefali.

As a performer/artist living in urban India and one who has travelled the world as well as interior parts of our country, she has had bittersweet experiences. The casting couch being no exception to any field, she too has faced it while approaching people for work. "I have come to realize that if the woman takes a stand and categorically conveys what she wants and proves her talent, she will be immensely respected for who she is by one and all," insists Shefali. And she has the track record to prove that she isn't one to just talk. She has walked the walk as well having performed with various artists from different and is widely admired for the sensitivity that she gets to the subject of art.

"In the course of my work and travel, I have seen women who have been doing exceptionally well in whatever field they chose. Addressing womens gatherings on several occasions, I realized how much a woman can do if she decides to and believes in herself. I dream to create a school one day where women and children specially from the lower strata of society would be given unconditional education and a learning environment to explore their genius and develop it in their own way to create a true difference to the society," says Shefali.

In today's day and age, women the world over and especially in our society have learned to create their space by asking for their rights. "This is a change that has happened over over time. She has learned to balance life and is more independent in her thought and action," says Shefali who herself enjoyed great support from her family.

"A woman needs to be more realistic to accept the truth of life that she has only 'one life to do everything she wants to do' unlike the superstitious beliefs of realizing dreams through somebody else or next lives. So my advise to them is start living life queensize and they will see the world follow them," says Shefali.

As a woman, Shefali expects to be given equality and responsibility towards life and be treated respectfully. "Women need to think of themselves as individuals who make a true difference to society with their sensitivity and compassion. They needs to be more open to trying options and they will see life get bigger, bolder and grander. And before women can ask for equality, they need to realize the fact that they are already equal in most ways and its time they prove this to the world," emphasises Shefali.

The Way forward

The way forward

Nysa has completed her Bachelors from the Delhi University and is currently pursuing her Masters in English Literature. But sitting in one place and reading for long hours is not something that she would rather do.

By Aditi Thirani

Nysa likes to communicate at 'different levels'. "I really want to finish my Masters and justify what I am studying right now but ironically, that really seems distant because I am not the person who has the patience to sit and read for hours," says Nysa. She is more of an adventure person. "I love adventure sports like rock climbing, rafting, camping, trekking, etc. But unfortunately I don't get much time for sports now. I've been waiting to learn swimming so that I can enjoy water sports and be equally excited about plans to Goa," beams Nysa.

Nysa has been responsible for running 'Fade In', a theatre group in Pune which has a wonderful team of people from different walks of life. "It's an exciting mix of MBAs, IITians, Engineers, BPO workers, students, and full time actors. All of my time goes in planning, rehearsing and preparing actors for our productions. Apart from acting, now my interests also lie in directing the plays and script writing will be next in the times to come. I see myself learning new and exciting things with time and each experience," says Nysa.

"I feel really great being a woman and more than that I consider myself lucky to be born in times where the situation of women is much better than what it was in my mother's times" feels Nysa who likes to be her own boss. "I always wanted to be in a line of profession where I am my own boss and there are no time limits, reporting, targets and I could decide my own pace of doing things. Luckily theatre gives me this leverage .And I am happy that my passion is also my profession now. Things couldn't have been better," quips Nysa.

"I feel that people across all strata of society have started respecting and acknowledging the fact that women are individuals like men and have the independence to take the decision that they feel is right. This is because women are competing, succeeding and leading in their respective careers. I think the next milestone is when people will stop being judgmental and critical about women," says Nysa. "Changes are evident as more and more women are getting independent and career conscious. Especially in middle and upper middle classes mostly, a girl child is not seen as a liability at the time of birth," she adds.

"This field is known for exploitation, casting couch, compromises etc. I had my share of fears before stepping into this line of profession but so far, God has been really kind to me. One thing that I realized is that all depends on your attitude of approaching things and opportunities. If you are desperate people would take advantage of your situation. According to me, it does not matter whether you are a man or a woman the challenges are same for both the sexes. All you need is a sharp mind complemented by smart work," says an experienced Nysa.

"There's no doubt that when you step out into the so called male-dominated society things don't come easy to you. Being a woman you have to be very cautious about your actions at all times. Because one slip and the first thing that is targeted is your character and your integrity is challenged. So one has to be professional and yet have a good rapport with your male /female counterparts or colleagues. Unfortunately few people still love to hate a woman in power. 'A female boss is always a bitch and a female subordinate is bound to be a bitch' is a patent thing to think," says Nysa.

"As a woman I expect and hope that my gender is never a limitation to anything that I plan or wish to do or venture into. I also feel that women should think about keeping their self respect. They should refuse to be treated like a doormat and they'll be bestowed with this power only when they're independent and educated. They should be responsible towards them. Every woman should think about making a contribution towards society. And being in so many roles she can change the way people around her think. As mothers she can teach her children/son to treat girls with respect and not encourage any wrong actions. And these sons will tomorrow set example for their children and friends by being good fathers and husbands," suggests Nysa.

Nothing's Impossible

Nothing's impossible

She thinks if women can reach the moon, then the work she is doing is no big deal. Mohini Tribhuvan has been working as a petrol pump attendant since three years now. And according to her, a woman can find ways out of every problem.

By Aditi Thirani

"I earn on my own and also help my parents at home. It's a great feeling. I am never dependent on anyone. Being a woman has taught me a lot of things in life," says Mohini.

Besides being a petrol pump attendant she also works in a hospital as a nurse. She is really interested in the hospitality industry. "It gives me a chance to serve people. And I am very lucky to be able to do that," says Mohini. She is a calm person by nature and has an 'I give a damn' attitude. "When a girl steps out of her house, people start talking about it. But we shouldn't give up so easily. We should face the problems and not run away from them. And that results in giving you immense courage to face the world and the problems. New experiences teach you new lessons. Seeing women as weak is being really foolish. A person who suppresses people is not powerful in the true sense. And where there are bad people, there are good ones as well," believes Mohini.

"I love being a woman. Even though I had a lot of problems initially, but then I got used to it and now I am doing really well. I am grateful to God and my mother for making me what I am today. I am thankful that I am not the kinds who will just look after the house and kids but the modern woman. Obviously I still have a long way to go. A woman plays a lot of roles which I feel is so great. But she also has to put face to all kinds of pains and grieves. The best part is that she goes through all of them and yet stands her ground firmly. She is the one that makes the new generation but still she has to go through so many humiliation," says Mohini who wants people to stop looking at females as mere pieces of pleasure.

"We've proved that earlier and will keep proving that we have a lot of potential. And we can reach places that people can only think of. I would expect people to not only respect them but love them for what they are rather than criticising them. The society forgets what an important role a woman plays in the moulding of the society. People should stop asking a woman to always stay in the house, her world is outside too. This point of view has to come in place. Without us, the society will not progress. And if given the right opportunities we can achieve great feats. I really respect people like Maharishi Karve, Mahatma Phule, Dr. Babasaheb Ambedkar and Swami Vivekanand. They have done phenomenal work for females in India. People should get inspired by them," says Mohini.

"'We don't want a girl child', this phrase has to be stopped being used. Then the violence and molestations should stop. And they will stop only if stern actions are taken," says Mohini when asked what she expects from the society for woman. "I think woman shouldn't fight. They should live with unity. Like so many women choose the wrong path to be successful so other women follow. They set good examples and not bad ones. Be strong and the like the weak ones who go for the easy path," says a thinking Mohini who is really hard working and believes the best food is when you have earned it out of your sweat. Nothing can be as true as this statement!

Mixing it Up

Mixing it up!

Leaving home for a career is not unusual these days. However, for a woman to leave home to pursue and unusual career like being a bartender is definitely unusual.

By Aditi Thirani

Meet Sonali Mullick who left Kolkata after a graduation in commerce to pursue her dream in the hospitality industry. But Mumbai wasn't the final stop in her journey either. After working in Mumbai, Sonali moved to Muscat to pursue her career for another two years and moved back to pursue bar training in Mumbai. "I kept moving because for me, growth was of utmost importance. I have always enjoyed learning new things and the one thing I don't enjoy is monotony,"says Sonali.

Being a woman in control of her own destiny is something Sonali finds most important. "I like to be in control of things. That authority is never given to a woman is what I can't do without. I have always taken my decisions and will always do,"she emphasizes. Shatbi Basu was her inspiration in life. "I always loved the magic created by mixing drinks for people I don't know! And it is a good feeling to send them home fully content and happy! Although I'd like more respect and appreciation, it will take time for that to happen,"she adds.

"Being a woman is a challenge in itself. I am sure every woman faces some challenges no matter what field she is in. My case is better because we have bouncers and a lot of security standing for our protection. Actually, it all depends on the individual and to she's seen as. If you carry yourself well with dignity, no man can misbehave with you,"she suggests. It also helps that times have changed and women are now more commonplace in the workplace.

Going forward, Sonali dreams of opening a bartending school and a place where there won't be any straight drinks but only cocktails and shooters! "Personally, I don't drink, but I love to mix them and give people a couple of new mixes they never heard of or what something they haven't tried so far... it's a heady feeling,"she says. And she's quick to extend an invitation as well. "Come and join me and my club,"says Sonali.

Widely regarded for her cheerful demeanor, she is known as a happy person and does smile a lot. Her nature comes across as very friendly and understanding. "I don't like blowing my own trumpet, but I like to get credit when due. After all, it's better to be real!"

While the world has changed, a lot of subtle differences remain, feels Sonali. "Women in unusual professions like mine have to face a lot of angst. Society feels that we are the rebels and may be a bad influence on others. This attitude should change. Women must do whatever they enjoy with self-confidence, zeal and pride. And that will happen when they start expecting respect and learn to love themselves,"insists Sonali.

Rock it DJ

Rock it DJ!

She has done a series of activities right from Fashion Designing to Graphic Designing. Priiyaa is a woman with varied interests and talents and a career DJ.

By Aditi Thirani

She has done a lot of designing work which included designing coffee table books, carpets. In fact she even worked in a Carpet buying house. Having studied all over India, she has got a great exposure and learning experience. "My dad was in army so we've never stayed in a single place for a long time. My childhood was fun because we did a lot of travelling and I always enjoyed travelling. Now my parents are settled in Noida like all retired army officers do, says Priiyaa.

Priiyaa is basically from Rajasthan. She has done modeling has well. But that never interested her much. "I always loved the sound of music. Life without music is incomplete. Music is like meditation. At one of the clubs I visited five years ago I watched the DJ play some electrifying tunes which made so many people happy and got them dancing that I got super inspired. Then I knew exactly what I wanted to do. Music gives people an emotional rush which they strive for. I get an opportunity to say something to people through music," relates Priiyaa.

She did a crash course in Sydney where she learnt the technicalities. Then she came back to India and got devoted to practicing. "I practiced for 6 months at a club called Opium in Bangalore. I used to play during the early hours when there weren't too many people. Six months thence I had my first gig at the same club where I was launched as Bangalore's first lady DJ. That night I played to hundreds of people. It was great! Thinking about it now is as thrilling as it was then," beams Priiyaa.

So did she face any challenge being a female DJ? "The only challenge was the challenge itself. To become a DJ was the challenge. I told myself not to be afraid to try something new. There's always more to learn. Every time I start my set the challenge is to connect with the crowd & to put in the right energy through the mix. I am extremely passionate about what I do. No matter what it is, I do it with all my heart & soul. It's like my life depends on it. Even if I decide to laze, I laze well... My experience as a DJ has been wonderful... The person I am today is largely because of what I do. I have travelled a lot, struggled too, worked hard like never before, interacted with hundreds of people, been in many tough situations, obviously heard and played a lot of music and in turn, made a lot of people happy which gives the joy which has no substitute. In short, life has never been dull," says Priiyaa.

She thinks a woman would have to be a mixture of various roles of a daughter, a sister, a mother, a grandmother, a granddaughter, a girlfriend, a wife, a friend, and a mentor. "Add a spoonful of sorrows, a gallon of strength, a barrel full of forgiveness, a pinch of joy, a tablespoon of laughter, a cup of wisdom, a slice of life and some sugar and spice. That's a woman. I am a woman. That's one label I will gladly accept. I am a woman in process and I'm trying just like everybody else. I try to take every conflict, every experience & learn from it," quotes Priiyaa.

She thinks that more than people's attitude it's the woman's attitude that needs to change and it is changing she feels. "Women are clearly in a different situation than they were twenty years ago. Think about what your life is like in comparison to someone who was your age 20 years ago. My first assumption is that it's worthwhile to hear women's voices, and my second assumption is that those voices have been too often ignored. Feminism has changed society to a large extent & it's good to see that there's a glimmer of understanding that women are to be valued and respected," says Priiyaa.

"The changes I have observed in the way women are seen are phenomenal. Name a place where women aren't present. Generically speaking at least one woman has entered most professions and have proved that at least one woman is capable of doing what men can do (For instance DJs, CEOs, athletes, politicians, jockeys). However it is true that within these male dominated professions, women still have to work twice as hard to be taken half as seriously," feels Priiyaa.

"Whether it's a working woman or a home maker (arguably, the task of raising the next generation is a noble one), I feel there are parts of our society which do not give women their due credit. This I feel must change. Men & women both need to understand that the different sexes were created by God with different roles but otherwise equal in every respect. Why must there be such a revolution to realize that all people are equal regardless of sex, race, culture, skin color," questions Priiyaa.

Priiyaa doesn't share her dreams till they are fulfilled. That's the kind of faith she has in herself. "Call me superstitious but I don't talk about things until they are accomplished. I'll get back to you once my dream is fulfilled. I expect a lot from myself. I expect myself to manage my time more efficiently. I expect myself to be more patient. I sometimes feel I am pushing myself too much but then that's how I am and I love being me," concludes Priiyaa.

Taking life head-on

Taking life head-on

Mrs Khanuja doesn't come across as a person who would want to dabble much in cars, but she had to due to personal reasons. And then she fell in love with cars!

By Aditi Thirani

For Mrs Khanuja, life has been very unpredictable. She took up the business of automobiles after the sudden and unfortunate demise of her husband. Mrs. Khanuja didn't have any experience but was from a business family. Although only a Class X passout, she wanted to fulfill her husband's dreams and went ahead to take care of the business from being a full-time housewife. A lady with immense courage and one who is always ready to take all difficulties head-on, she epitomizes the woman of the 21st century. "I didn't want to be dependant on anyone financially. Of course, it was a big decision and I had to take it for the bright future of my children," says Mrs. Khanuja.

Though the times have changed, the attitude of people towards women hasn't changed much feels Mrs. Khanuja. "It is indeed really sad that things haven't changed much. In times where women have entered fields which were only men's domain earlier, there are still places where they are treated like door mats. Women are into IT, Industries, Army, Politics, Automobiles, Banking, etc. Even Pilots and travelled to space. You name it and they are there. It's really necessary that people change their attitudes towards women and start respecting them," she says. Mrs Khanuja also enjoys cooking and gardening and credits her upbringing for her success. "We were always taught to respect everyone and be polite. My parents and teachers said always help the needy and always be humble," she adds.

"I didn't have any work experience so I faced a lot of problems because of that in the beginning. The biggest was gender problem as this work was totally men oriented. Most of the customers were men and when they saw a woman at the counter they made assumptions that their work won't be done properly. Even the workers in the shop took advantage of my inexperience. But slowly things started to change when they saw that I was determined to run the shop. Where there is a will, there is a way really applies in my case. If you are strong enough nothing can stop you. This is my personal experience. Also believe in God that he is taking care of everything so there is nothing to worry about," says Mrs. Khanuja.

She thinks being a woman is difficult but it's a great asset to be one. "God gave the world a woman as the greatest gift. She has the strength and the power to bear a lot and still be the winner. The world would be nothing without her. Life would be monotonous for everyone if women weren't there at all," adds Mrs. Khanuja. "As a woman I want everyone to be equal with women and give them the freedom that they need and ask for. Good education is equally necessary for all so why should women be left behind? They have a right to make a good career and lead respectful lives," she insists.

"Women shouldn't think that they are helpless. Today women can and should stand on their feet," concludes Mrs. Khanuja.